Do you see the glass as half-empty or half-full? Is it better to be a pessimist or an optimist? Clearly, there are advantages and disadvantages to both. This chapter examines the arguments and reveals how science finds a positive outlook is more conducive to personal and professional fulfillment, friendship and happiness.
•Be realistic, but never negative or defeatist.
•Bitterness, anger, jealousy and blame will drag you down – let go of them.
•De-stress. Negative thinking produces additional stress which is a killer.
•Try to see the upside of every situation. It may require some lateral thinking, but it’s there!
•Accept you may not be right about everything. Be open-minded and considerate in your dealings with others. It brings unexpected rewards and new venues to explore.
•You’ll feel better about yourself, and people will enjoy your company more, if you express your public and personal thoughts in a positive rather than a negative way.
•The mind-body connection (see Ch. B Sec. 35) suggests that a positive mind beneficially influences every one of our body functions.
•Smile; smiling and enthusiasm are contagious. Remember the hit song of the 40’s – smile and the Whole World smiles with you.
•Life is continuously presenting us with problems after problems, some predictable, some totally unforeseen. Avoid emotional involvement in problem solving. Remember its wiser when initially presented with a problem to take a step back and count to 10 (or in some cases count to 100) instead of reacting in an emotional negative manner. Try to view problems in an abstract manner, delicately reviewing the possible solutions. There are times when it’s better to do nothing – just let the dust settle – then seek a positive solution. However 99% of all problems have solutions via...