As mammalian beings deep bonding with our fellowman is an integral part of our natural code of survival. In our modern society we, to varying degrees emotionally link with many of our peers. From that epitomized by the deep personal commitments shared by husband and wife, which may last over many decades to transient infatuations between a teenager and her pop star idol. As Shakespeare said “man is not an island” we have a deep psychological need to form emotional unions, we need to be part of the pack. However, with the yin yang cycle of life, where death follows life and death is followed by rebirth, even our most cherished personal bonds will eventually be shattered.
It may be said as we progress through the dynamics of life that everyone enters and leaves our emotional field of focus sooner or later. As we are unique in living and unique in our bonding so we are unique in the way we cope when an emotional bond is broken. We grief on a very deep personal level. A level at times that ravages our very souls. But to some extent nature is kind and our wounds heal with the passage of time.
During the grieving period, out tormented spirit is reminded of the fragile and transitory nature of life itself. Eventually we find the inner fortitude to accept the loss of a loved one and finally we move on to a changed life that with time is rekindled into the fullness of a happy life.
» As we mature we must wisely accept that everything in life is transient. This acceptance must include our own physical transience. We are mortal and we must accept this in all humility. We are a queue and the queue is getting shorter with every passing moment. Accepting this adds additional value to each day in our lives and prompts us to reevaluate the significance of our emotional ties with our fellowman. If you truly accept that all life is transient it pacifies the razor sharp edge of grieving by knowing that a bond has been broken as part of our living experience.
» Reflect on other persons who have experienced the loss if someone dear. Then fast track that person forward and sooner or later that person will emerge from the grieving period, rebuild their lives and again start to enjoy living a full vibrant life.
» Since grieving can, via mind-body connection, produce a cascade of negative health issues we must be resolute in maintaining our...